Skip the Formalities

When I got my first job in the U.S., at Macy's, I remember how uncomfortable it was for me to call my manager by her first name. It took some getting used to. Fast forward to my first corporate job and discovering along the way that everyone addressed the CEO by his first name! Are you kidding me?

I spent my formative working years addressing everyone by Ms. or Mr. or get this....even Sir/Ma'am! So, initially, calling someone by their first name would cause me to break out in hives! There was always the slip of tongue which would lead to them reminding me that their name is 'X'...Skip the formalities Cindy-Ann.

Whew! This may sound weird but this newfound freedom gave me a sense of empowerment. I know right?!?! Something that simple.

Skip the formalities.

I didn't realize how differently it made me feel until recently when I texted someone back home (Trinidad and Tobago but only Trinidad (if you know what I mean)). I greeted them on a first name basis and was immediately put in my place. I mean they didn't say anything untoward but as if I could sense the tone of their response.

Good morning Miss Boisson. There was no italic or bold but it felt that way.

The font used in the text message looked different. You know? Also, that was their initial response. Then a pause. As if they were giving me time to reflect on my unacceptable conduct. I lived in the pause too. Hahahahaha. It's like they took me back to primary school days. Was I about to be reprimanded? Write 100 times 'I must always show respect!'.

Remember those days? Lines? When you had to repeatedly write a sentence, outlining the misconduct, for a number of times.

Admittedly, I truly love that I have the benefit of enjoying and living through different cultural experiences; it certainly enhances my creativity. Seeing life through different lens allows me to be more tolerant and has also been a springboard for my growth and resilience.

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